I ramble, hard to believe if you know Me, but when I write I ramble so I apologise in advance if I do here..
Okay…hands up…who here has heard of Demisexuality?…no? well go and Google it, well no, don’t because You’ll get pages of sites of what I personally think of as crap. Crap definitions of what Demisexuality is, crap from people saying Demisexuality isn’t real or valid.
before I go any further I’m going to you My definition of what Demisexuality is :-
A Demisexual is someone who does not, will not and cannot ever develop primary sexual attraction…that’s it! Simple eh?!
Human sexual attraction can be divided into Primary sexual attraction and desire and Secondary Sexual attraction and desire.
Primary Sexual attraction is attraction to a Person/People based on instantly available information such as appearance or smell which may lead to arousal or desire. So by not experiencing Primary attraction, Demisexuals do not experience the full range of attraction or only half…( hence Demi from french via medieval Latin for half ).
If you do go online and google Demisexuality and read on hundreds of sites or X amount of memes or google images that Demisexuals need to feel a strong emotional connection with someone in order to feel sexual attraction to them, that’s the result of us being Demisexual, rather than the reason for us being Demisexual.
All well and good you may say…but this requirement for a strong emotional connection for attraction to develop often leads demisexuals to fall for friends. For many who do develop such feelings ( I just have to mention here that though Demisexuals can and do fall for their friends, it doesn’t mean they definitely will ) the feelings are not always recipricated.
If you took the plunge and googled demisexuality, then you probably read the opinions of some people who claim Demisexuals are just choosy about who they sleep with. We’re not choosy We just don’t get turned on unless there is that deep emotional attachment I keep mentioning, We must have that bond for sexual attraction to develop.
An outstanding share! I’ve just forwarded this onto
a colleague who was conducting a little research on this.
And he in fact ordered me breakfast due to the fact that
I found it for him… lol. So let me reword this…. Thank YOU for the meal!!
But yeah, thanks for spending the time to talk about this matter here on your website.
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Glad you like the post. I hope He ordered the works for you, it is the most important meal of the day after all lol
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